Friends today I am selfish I am not writing this article for you guys instead I am writing this for my future self. Because I know there will come moments when I will forget all these points and then this article will be strong enough to help me see the correct path.
So Hi there, Let me ask you guys a question, tell me 2 words that are utter opposite yet way more connected, than we think they are!
lock and key? lock to close and key to open! yet connected the most! 😂 Kidding! this is not a blog about lock and key but another similar pair - LOVE and PAIN!
According to the official definition of love - Love is when you put their needs ahead of yours and you selflessly think of their well-being. When someone is in love no matter with a living or a non-living thing like God😅, they instead start expecting. Is expectation Love? Or is it just the start of pain that we will be carrying with us till the day our expectations fall and fail, it is then that we will realize what pain is!
I see people believing in God with their whole hearts and end up expecting so much that it leaves them in despair and eventually they lose hope in God and love as well. I know it's not intentional but it is unavoidable! Whenever we start expecting we must know that it will lead to disappointment, not because the person we are trusting is unfaithful but because once after expecting, everything that they have to provide looks like nothing. We create this mind trap for ourselves and then get suffocated by it.
Believe- but only to the level you don't expect
Love- but only to the level you can accept (no matter what comes along)
We all realize that pain is always there in the background just like love is, still when we are in pain we forget that love is still there, and it's our mindset and our decision to bring it back to life.
Nothing is permanent, I am sure you all have realized this by now, the only permanent thing is this cycle of joy and pain. It's better to befriend both of these as they will not only help you grow but also help to keep calm(which btw my friends are more important than growth). The more you run away from any extreme emotion, the more you try to be in control the more you lose control. let your emotions flow through you and feel them at the moment, whether it's love or pain!
Your belief in something doesn't have to be your weakness but your strength instead. Most people believe in God, most even say they love him and one day you will hear these same people hating him, why? because he did not fulfill your wish, your wish of having your family forever, your wish of always doing well with your business. If someone says they love something or someone that doesn't have to be conditional ( Still, it doesn't make it unconditional, "unconditional" doesn't exist! I agree), conditions that bring grief are not worth having, you might as well not consider it as love but a fair transaction that you expected to happen smoothly but got stuck in between. My words might sound really harsh if you are relating to this article, but do realize and analyze any such relation if you are maintaining, maybe it's not with someone but just God! you still need to analyze it.
Make your belief system expectations proof and it shall NOT change to the pain system! Tap into your inner self and conquer the pain! As pain is not bad but just an emotion and treat it like one! Feel it and then let it go!
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