Doubts are nothing but infectious diseases without cure! You get doubtful about your career, your partner, and above all about yourself. We, humans, have the tendency to mark labels on everything. In the same manner, we mark ourselves as well. good or bad, kind or unkind, sweet or rude. Why is it so hard to understand that a person can be both, given the time and situation? We get doubts about our capabilities, our potential because we start to categorize ourselves into these buckets of labels. We try to put ourselves in one of these, "Intelligent" or "Dumb", "Pretty" or "Ugly, etc. when you closely look at it, it is all a matter of perspective. You can be actually genius about one thing and have no idea about another example I am an Engineer, I am good at mathematics & Computer science, throughout my life I have excelled in these two, and suddenly if someone asks me a question about neuroscience I won't be able to answer, does that make me any less capable? or intelligent? or smart? No right?!
You are beautiful for the ones who love you, No one can love the outer/physical body for very long, after a while all that matters is how you are on the inside! Your actions, decisions define you YES! but remember that your heart your kindness overpowers everything. If you are kind and your heart is in the right place your decisions will improve, with time, you will make better decisions and perform responsible actions, Also you will understand and analyze your past mistakes and would never repeat them.
Everything is a perspective! You think of yourself as superior to others, somehow you will feel elated and more confident but it will also make you cruel and hollow at heart. What I have mostly observed is that people who are really good at heart and kind are the ones who doubt themselves the most! They doubt because they analyze themselves. They care about every word coming out of their loved ones.
But is doubting yourself "even after being so fabulous", a good thing? No, it is not.
Self-doubt is helpful only if you are using it to develop/improve yourself, if not then all it will result in, is sadness and frustration. It's what we think and feel, we become the same. Let's do a small activity here, take 60 seconds of your precious time and think how smart, kind and beautiful you are, not with respect to anybody but yourself. Just feel how much your loved ones love you, and how nothing but your good heart matters to them. Hereby you analyze how it felt, Good? Confident?! Now take another 60 seconds and think how you are in-competent, not enough for someone or how you are not so capable to achieve your goals, how do you feel now? sad? devastated?
Becoming better is a process, no matter if it's your brain or heart or even looks! you get better with time. Why is it called "getting better" and not "good" or "best", because you were born good and you are on your journey of becoming the best version of yourself! And the in-between is "better" It's no rocket science, it is as simple as training your mind to get a better look on the brighter side always and try making better decisions. Being in doubt is okay, only if you know when and how to come out of it. And it is a process you will learn and get better at with time. So go get that dream job you always wanted, go get that girl/boy you like so much, stop doubting yourself.
So dear readers, I take your leave now, Hope you don't keep floating in the pool of your self-doubts but instead step out of it and let the sunshine soak you with its warmth of kindness.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE SMART. YOU ARE ENOUGH.
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